parents are suing the school district because they cannot stop the
bullying that she endures everyday at school. Johnnyís parents
have withdrawn him from school and are trying Home Schooling after
Johnny was hit by a bully everyday for the first month of
school. At another school, two victims of years of daily
bullying came to school with firearms to solve their problem. A recent
study showed that 23% of all school students reported being
the victims of a bully. Something must be done.
In some states, schools have been required to address bullying in
manuals. This seems to parallel the requirement to develop policies
addressing earthquakes and severe weather. Knowing how to react to
these uncontrollable situations is a very good idea, but is bullying
as uncontrollable as the weather? No. Bullying is a behavior and
behavior can be controlled, changed or managed. What is needed is training
rather than directives.
Keys To Safer Schools.com has
developed a program
to deal with bullies. It is apparent that the need is actually in four
- The Victim:
How to handle being bullied by a peer.
- The Bully:
How to identify the need for bullying and better ways to meet
- The School:
How to deal with both sides of bullying in a productive
- The Parent:
How to recognize signs that your child is being bullied,
help your child cope with bullies and how to interact with the
school about a bullying situation.
The victim of bullying can loose interest in school because it
becomes an unpleasant place to be or even to think about.
In the extreme
cases, victims suffer mental health trauma that may last for years
or a lifetime. And in the very worst of cases, the victim turns the tables and
becomes the bully, often with deadly consequences such as the recent school
The bully is acting out of some need that he or she may not understand. Left
uncorrected, bullying seldom corrects itself. The bully is likely to become
isolated and suffer relationship problems because friendship building skills
and empathy have never been learned. It is more productive for the school
and/or individual, if bullying is addressed as a cry for help rather than
The school is faced with the difficult task of sorting out bullying actions
and responses. A sneaky bully is never seen in the act by anyone other than the
victim who may be viewed as a tattletale or troublemaker for reporting
it. It is important for teachers to become skilled in ways to spot
bullying and to learn how to catch them in the act. This removes the victim
from being a tattletale and from possible retaliation from the bully.
Because sometimes confronting the bully may make matters worse for the victim
later on. Over protecting the victim may create a dependent personality trait.
Sometimes, the school official identifies with one or the other and takes
sides, which can have devastating results. Training
is the Keys!
The parent whose child is hurt by a bully feels powerless, unable to protect
this precious little person from being picked on. The parent whose child has
become a bully feels frustrated by all the calls from parents and the school
and from the defiance or indifference displayed by their child. What can be
done? Keys To Safer Schools .com has the help
that is needed.
Frank G. Green
Keys To Safer Schools.com